Should I Go Should I Stay (Lyrics that touch the soul)

Should I Go (Brandy)

Should I go?
Should I stay?
I’m in control either way
Should I go?
Should I stay?
I’m in control either way

A vast amount of time in relationships is spent trying to figure out whether to stay or go. Most often because we are torn between our heart and our minds logic thoughts. This is usually instigated by the feeling of upset, violation, hurt or anger and frustration. Followed by a series of  “I can do bad all by myself” and “ain’t nobody got time for this” memes. Staying somehow feels like a prison sentence in  guantanamo bay. In exchange for freedom, peace and the ability to do, say and think how we want to.  Seeking advice from family and friends who will only ever really know half of the story from one perception.  But as the saying goes… “there is your version, their version and the truth”.

Nowadays ain’t nobody got time for anything.  Everyone claims they have better things to do and leaving is now the prime option above all.  Yet, as Brandy puts so nicely we are “in control either way”.  But only if we choose to view it as so.  Having to deal with things we do not like is not always the best reason for deciding to end a relationship. So it is always advised to rationally think first before throwing in the towel.  Questions to think about…

Check List

1. Is the argument over a disagreement? 

yes (2)

Nobody argues because they agree.  Arguments arise from disagreements. If someone disagrees with you it should not be an issues, or should it?  You own a unique mind only related to you.  People can only agree, disagree or see with you, equally you the same.

 

2. Is it something they did God forsakenly ‘wrong’ or just some something ‘you don’t like’ that makes you feel some type of way?

yes (2)

If it is not detrimental and only something you don’t like are your reasons significantly valid or just a personal preference? people won’t always do as you like, equally you will never always do as others like.

 

3. Are you both strong minded?

yes (2)

Both being strong minded is most probably an attraction and compliment the relationship when in agreement and working together over matters. However it can at times cause challenges.  It’s not the end of the world.

 

4. Are you both opinionated?

yes (2)

Being opinionated means you are confident in expressing thoughts, views and opinions.  There is absolutely nothing wrong.  However it can at times cause challenges.  It’s not the end of the world.

 

5. Are you still getting to know each other?

yes (2)

It takes time to get to know and understand others indifferent to our own perceptions, views and opinions. However it can at times cause challenges.  It’s not the end of the world.

 

6. Do you compliment each other in anyway?

 

yes (2)

If there are additional positive benefits and advantages in this area this should be considered in reasons to stay, you might not get lucky on the next pick.

 

7. Do you share common interests?

yes (2)

If there are additional positive benefits and advantages in this area this should be considered in reasons to stay, you might not get lucky on the next pick.

 

8. Do you share common long term future goals?

yes (2)

If there are additional positive benefits and advantages in this area this should be considered as reasons to stay, you might not get lucky on the next pick.

 

9. Do you love each other? 

yes (2)

If there are additional positive benefits and advantages in this area this should be considered as reasons to stay, you might not get lucky on the next pick.

 

10. Is the issues mainly COMMUNICATION? 

maybe (3)

 

11. Are there issues of lack of trust, insecurities, fears or past issues?

maybe (3)

 

The number 1 issue in relationships is usually communication, followed by lack of trust and not feeling secure in the relationship. Nothing actually to do with who did and said what when and how.  Sometimes these factors are unconscious and not clear to see, so it’s wise to  make a point to throw them into the consideration factor when making decisions.  We live in an imperfect world filled with imperfect people, expect nothing less than imperfection.

Sometimes it will be necessary to walk away from a relationship. But never without giving it your best shot.  “Nothing worthwhile is ever easy and what’s easy is never worth while”. We need to stop walking away from relationships and learn to communicate, respect, love and trust. Some things are unchangeable but not everything, and those ‘things’ are in our control.

 

communictaion and relationships(3)

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